Count Love With What You Wrap It, Not What You Give
Giving is an act of faith whose only true test is love. It is an act of affection that comes from the heart and spreads with the eyes closed. The amount of affection implicit in such an act is the measure of its vigor. Moreover, giving without any intention may be simple, but offering with will and sincerity is not so simple.
So, no: it is not only what you are capable of giving to others or what you receive from them, it is also the love that you invest or collect in each action. It seems contradictory, but in order to fill the soul it is necessary to share the emotional intensity that we carry within it.
The act of giving can fill the same as that of receiving
It seems that the concept of receiving something from someone implies the idea of adding and that the concept of giving implies that of subtracting. It is likely that sometimes it coincides that this is the case, but there will be many others in which this law will not be respected: without realizing it, there are those who forget that the act of offering may be able to feed us as much or more than that of obtaining.
It is true that both are important. In fact, the act of giving for the mere pleasure of doing it with the heart is as courageous as knowing how to receive the same from others. Both one and the other suppose a dynamic that must occur alternately and that generates happiness and personal satisfaction.
We receive and win, but we give and we can earn more. The Greeks already considered in the past that people’s emotional intelligence resided in the heart. Therefore, what is valuable is the love you give in what you give or the emotion that comes when you receive, not the superficial act of doing so.
When giving is also giving
Along the same lines, it is legitimate to affirm that speaking of giving and receiving from the heart translates into giving ourselves as people and knowing what others want to convey to us. Personal relationships really are this: an emotional piece of us flies every time we give with sincerity and an essential part of the other nests in us when we open up to take it.
Giving without affection does not mean anything, doing a favor out of interest is not nice, thinking of the other out of obligation is fleeting, etc. However, by putting love in whatever we do, everything changes.
In this case, if we put affection when giving, we will be enriching what we give. We will be taking off our masks, we will be opening the most vulnerable doors of our interior and we will be ceasing to perceive the purest part that we have.
That is the one that is worth the most and the one that lasts the longest as an effect on the people around us: if someone has done something for you from the heart, you will be aware of how that act remains etched in your memory. Honest emotional acts are kept under lock and key in that little drawer in which throughout life we keep the memories, objects, people or ideas that really have value.
When giving with love something returns
You may be thinking that you give more than you receive and that this is not fair. What’s more, I’m pretty sure you’ve ever gotten tired of not seeing a response similar to yours from other people. The disappointment you feel when you perceive this does not have so much to do with not receiving, as with feeling that perhaps they do not care too much about you.
For this, it is necessary that we be observers: look and detect who is taking advantage and who is not, from there, to filter our giving action in a healthier way. Once this is achieved, it is more likely that we will recognize a simple smile of gratitude, a few words of affection and a minimal gesture that seeks to make us happy.
Thus, it may seem difficult to distinguish such frankness, but not impossible. You cannot live in society if you do not believe in reciprocity, in the goodness of the human being or in mutual gratitude. We deserve a love that we have to be able to give to keep our self-esteem in a healthy state.
Images courtesy of: Pascal Campion
