There Is Something Better Than Love: Complicity
We all want to find someone whose demons understand our own. A omeone who has the key to our locks, with whom we feel so confident that let them open them without fear of collusion experienced. Someone with whom our true selves resurface and we can be ourselves.
It is something better than a love because each one discovers a part of the other without the need for words to mediate and with the need for a life full of permanence to mediate. A complicity is achieved with those people you hold on to so as not to let the present slip away while you think about everything that awaits you.
They make you breathe love and smile foolishly when you remember that the coincidence that you are where you are you are in the same coordinates through the looks.
The body language of complicity
There are looks that say it all and a whole that is filled with looks. What we call complicity is a special union that transcends love, that is flooded with it and that is understood. Because loving is not just loving, but it is above all understanding.
For complicity there are no secrets in the looks, in the gestures or in the hugs. They are those people who know that even if we tell them that everything is fine, they know that it is not. In fact, they probably don’t even need to look at us or hear us speak. They are not fortune-tellers but they understand us beyond mirages and appearances.
The air you breathe is enough to know that the connection is pure fantasy, that goes beyond a sincere smile or a wise look. An atmosphere is created between two accomplices that becomes a kind of emotional prophecy that links feelings and hearts.
A home where souls fly
A soulmate is that person who makes you laugh and smile without saying anything at all. He is a person who is there, who does not abandon you, who is proud of what you achieve and who you are while at the same time he has no shame in telling you what he thinks or in calling your attention if you make a mistake.
This is not to say that there will be no misunderstandings or arguments, but even an accomplice fight can bring down our retaining walls. This only happens when that person is someone who questions you and who is not in your life silently, someone who marks a before for which there is no after and who floods every moment of tenderness.
Complicity allows us to accept without demands or hyperapies, without the need to change our essence or to satisfy childish or extreme needs. Then vibrations are built that complement each other perfectly, in the same way that a shared secret winks at the unconditionality of the soul.
Add instead of subtract
As His Holiness the Dalai Lama postulates, “If you don’t add, at least don’t subtract. ” And it is that complicity is about adding. If being with someone means subtracting, then you better think twice. Complicity allows you to be you and get the best out of yourself. If someone tries to clip your wings, assume there is no complicity.
A clear example of complicity, although in another aspect, we have it in John Lennon and Paul McCartney. Separately they are great musicians, but together they formed one of the best groups in the history of modern music. The same happens with relationships in which there is complicity. Together they highlight the qualities of the other, enhance them, make them grow and elevate them to levels never imagined.
