5 Types Of Predators That Surround Us And That You Should Know

Sometimes we are not aware of its mechanisms, but we are aware of its presence. There are very specific predators that inhabit our closest environments: they haunt our strengths to turn them into weaknesses, they turn off our certainties to transform them into insecurities … They are voracious enemies that we must control and avoid.

It is quite possible that many of us hearing the term “predator,” put in this context of human relationships and psychology, almost instantly visualize the classic “blue beard. ” They are skilled executors of emotional pain, slow sabotage of self-esteem, deception, manipulation and violation.

We know them well. However, we can have that external detector of harmful presences well installed in our sixth sense, without realizing that within us we have real predators of the psyche.  Often, we are the ones who veto that inner growth with which to give us the opportunity to be free and authentic, to give shape to that particle with which to illuminate our vital paths.

Believe it or not, it  is often much more difficult to identify these inner enemies, those wrong areas that define our true “happiness quotient. ” We suggest you reflect on it, we invite you to delve into these 5 dimensions that will undoubtedly be of great help to you.

The 5 types of predators that destroy your happiness

Robert B. Cialdini is a well-known American psychologist who works at Arizona State University (United States). His research has long been focused on identifying the key elements that make up emotional and behavioral predators. This identification had a specific purpose: to educate better.

The behavioral sciences, according to Dr. Cialdini, should have a common goal, raise awareness and emphasize those ethical principles in which we should all invest time, effort and resources. There are external predators, skillful scavengers camouflaged as good people that destroy lives, that inoculate unhappiness and that we must know how to detect.

However, sometimes, and this is important to keep in mind, our own internal predators can make us more vulnerable towards those harmful personalities that coexist in our everyday contexts.

Let’s see it in detail.

1. Predators that make you believe that you are tiny, incapable, vulnerable

There are vital prowlers who know how to spot the perfect person. They choose her for her goodness, for her nobility and for that limitless closeness where selfishness and self-interested concessions do not fit.

As they dwarf us, they get bigger. In every ray of light that dares to extinguish us, they shine and accumulate more power.

2. Predators disguised in sheepskin

Surely you know more than one profile with these unique attributes. These types of predators inhabit the heights of social success. They like each other very well, they are charismatic, charming, funny and close.

However, as we build a closer bond with them, we become aware of what is under their sheepskin: the predator’s selfish selfishness, coldness, laziness, falsehood, the need for control, to be admired, praised …

3. The internal predator that forces you to seek external reinforcements

There are people for whom their life is like a sheet of paper dropped on the ground. They only move when a gust of wind propels them, when a breeze blows around them and allows them to take a step forward.

• They need to be validated, have external reinforcements to know that what they do at all times is okay. If these stimuli are not obtained, they remain still, lost and waiting. Aimlessly.

• Insecurity, fear, lack of self-esteem and a fragile self-concept turn them into little bare sheets of paper, dull and without any use.

Let’s paint our body in colors and make a paper boat out of that sheet. Let’s navigate our own seas without the need for third-party validations.

4. Predators that threaten your emotional balance

It doesn’t matter what your needs or problems are: those of your emotional predator will be more serious, more intense and of greater relevance. So much so, that you will lose your right to complain, to regret.

• The reality that surrounds these types of happiness severs is reduced to a very narrow circle where you will be trapped. Your world will stop having windows where you can look out, oxygen where you can breathe or a mirror where you can see yourself reflected.

Likewise, your emotional predator will turn you into a small satellite orbiting its vast planet.

5. The internal predator that tells you that the best place in the world is your comfort zone

Do not hesitate. The best place in the world to be happy, where to take advantage of all the opportunities that life offers you, is your comfort zone.

This is what your most astute, most destructive and skillful internal predator will whisper to you every day. His wish is very specific: he wants you to be still. Motionless like those rocks on the beaches where the waves break, where time passes and nothing happens.

Becoming aware of this reality is a priority act. Taking the step out of the deep jaws of our comfort zone is an act of courage.

To conclude, as we can see, the true predators of this modern world are as complex as they are dangerous.

Sometimes we get so used to certain types of people and behaviors that we normalize their debilitating consequences to the point of stopping reacting to them. It is not the right thing to do. We must never get to this point, because being happy, apparently, can be easy, but what is really difficult is learning not to be unhappy.

Let’s make changes, let’s start fighting our daily predators.